Can a Catholic Date An Atheist?

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Today’s blog answers a question that comes straight from one of the viewers on my Youtube channel. She asks: “My boyfriend doesn’t believe in God. What should I do? Is it OK to date an atheist?” I bet you’ve had this same question if you’re out there on the dating scene or if you’ve found yourself feeling attracted to people who don’t believe in God.

Should Catholics date atheists, why or why not?

To anyone asking this question, let me start off with a question for you. Why do you want to date an atheist instead of a Catholic? Why do you want to date an atheist instead of a Christian? Why would you be interested in dating someone who doesn’t share your faith?

Really think about it for a minute.

Let’s take religion out of it for a second. Imagine someone who just loves hiking, and extreme sports, and the outdoors. They bought all the gear. They’re on blogs reading about hiking and the outdoors whenever they’re not actually out there doing it. Then they go ahead and date someone who hates going outside.

I bet most of their friends would ask “Why would you do that? You have nothing in common!” It’s the same thing for the spiritual life. I know that it’s hard to help who you are attracted to, but you have to think about how it will look down the road. Relationships are much more than just attraction, especially long-term ones.

What if you get married someday? Would you be okay with having a spouse who doesn’t share your love of God, and who may not even support your beliefs? Sure, some atheist spouses might be fine with you practicing your faith, and they might even go with you to church once in a while to support you. That’s a best-case scenario. But it can get more complicated than that. What if you have kids down the road? What about the day when those kids come to you and say:

“Mommy, why doesn’t daddy go to church?”

“Well, sweetie, he, um…hmm. That’s a tough question.”

It IS a tough question, and pursuing a relationship with an atheist could put you in that unfortunate, and often heartbreaking situation of having to explain to your kids why their parent doesn’t believe in God one day in the future. Confusion is going to ensue when your kids see that one of their parents doesn’t believe in God. The big question you have to ask yourself is if you want that type of confusion in your family. Do you?

But even more than this, you want someone who loves what you loves and shares something so important in your life… our faith.

One of the best life lessons I can share with you is that you want to find people who like what you like, who believe what you believe in, and who share the same core beliefs, in this case, religion. I would recommend personally that you don’t date an atheist for these reasons.

To be clear, I don’t say this because atheist people are “bad” people. Not at all. I am saying it simply because you don’t share the same core beliefs or faith. Dating someone who you are not on the same playing field as can be a big mistake. A permanent mistake. If your Catholic faith is the most important thing to you in your life, why wouldn’t you want to find someone who can walk along side you in that journey, someone you can share it all with, grow holier with, and become closer to God with?

I am going to leave you with this final piece of advice: Choose a spouse who can help you to heaven, and not be a hindrance to it.

Have your own opinion on the matter? Feel free to leave a comment below or on my YouTube channel here. Make sure you’re following me on Instagram, Twitter, and my other social media platforms for more lively conversations.

About Bryan Mercier

Bryan Mercier is a professional Catholic speaker, retreat leader, author, YouTuber, and Catholic apologist. He has spoken to adults and teens for 20 years the last fifteen years on a wide variety of topics; ranging from catechetics and faith formation, to morality, spirituality, and apologetics. He has spoken at youth and adult retreats, workshops, seminars, Catholic schools, parish missions, local, regional and national conferences. He has spoken in front of crowds ranging from thirty to three-thousand and has and has been aired on TV and radio in different states, including Relevant Radio, Ave Maria Radio, EWTN, and more.
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2 Responses to Can a Catholic Date An Atheist?

  1. Scotty V says:

    This is terrible advice. If you find someone to love who loves you, love can conquer all. Advising people to put their faith in something intangible over real actual relationships is contrary to the spirit of the Bible. Religion and spirituality are vehicles to happiness and fulfillment. So are relationships, and they should never be seen as mutually exclusive. I suggest you read the book The Martian Chronicles, which talks about a world where science and religion are one and the same. In such a world, it would be inconceivable to have to choose between faith and things that are more tangible. You need to open your heart to atheists and those of other faiths. Only then will you be able to give open-hearted advice that will actually help your followers.

  2. faith is not intangible. It’s very real to some people. and there’s a reason why religion, or difference of religion, has so often been on the top five reasons for divorce. science and religion cannot be the same. In some sense yes, and Christianity treated them very similarly for centuries. But yet they are different. One believes in empirical reality and research, while the other one is a spiritual and supernatural reality that cannot be proven to empirical studies. Either way, it’s very important for Christians to be led closer to God and deeper into their faith. And to do that, they need someone who can walk side-by-side sharing that faith and helping each other to grow.

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