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Today’s blog answers a question that comes straight from one of the viewers on my Youtube channel. She asks: “My boyfriend doesn’t believe in God. What should I do? Is it OK to date an atheist?” I bet you’ve had this same question if you’re out there on the dating scene or if you’ve found yourself feeling attracted to people who don’t believe in God.
Should Catholics date atheists, why or why not?
To anyone asking this question, let me start off with a question for you. Why do you want to date an atheist instead of a Catholic? Why do you want to date an atheist instead of a Christian? Why would you be interested in dating someone who doesn’t share your faith?
Really think about it for a minute.
Let’s take religion out of it for a second. Imagine someone who just loves hiking, and extreme sports, and the outdoors. They bought all the gear. They’re on blogs reading about hiking and the outdoors whenever they’re not actually out there doing it. Then they go ahead and date someone who hates going outside.
I bet most of their friends would ask “Why would you do that? You have nothing in common!” It’s the same thing for the spiritual life. I know that it’s hard to help who you are attracted to, but you have to think about how it will look down the road. Relationships are much more than just attraction, especially long-term ones.
What if you get married someday? Would you be okay with having a spouse who doesn’t share your love of God, and who may not even support your beliefs? Sure, some atheist spouses might be fine with you practicing your faith, and they might even go with you to church once in a while to support you. That’s a best-case scenario. But it can get more complicated than that. What if you have kids down the road? What about the day when those kids come to you and say:
“Mommy, why doesn’t daddy go to church?”
“Well, sweetie, he, um…hmm. That’s a tough question.”
It IS a tough question, and pursuing a relationship with an atheist could put you in that unfortunate, and often heartbreaking situation of having to explain to your kids why their parent doesn’t believe in God one day in the future. Confusion is going to ensue when your kids see that one of their parents doesn’t believe in God. The big question you have to ask yourself is if you want that type of confusion in your family. Do you?
But even more than this, you want someone who loves what you loves and shares something so important in your life… our faith.
One of the best life lessons I can share with you is that you want to find people who like what you like, who believe what you believe in, and who share the same core beliefs, in this case, religion. I would recommend personally that you don’t date an atheist for these reasons.
To be clear, I don’t say this because atheist people are “bad” people. Not at all. I am saying it simply because you don’t share the same core beliefs or faith. Dating someone who you are not on the same playing field as can be a big mistake. A permanent mistake. If your Catholic faith is the most important thing to you in your life, why wouldn’t you want to find someone who can walk along side you in that journey, someone you can share it all with, grow holier with, and become closer to God with?
I am going to leave you with this final piece of advice: Choose a spouse who can help you to heaven, and not be a hindrance to it.
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